Knowing how to get there. – lessons from house of cards

February 7, 2015 Leave a comment

As we grow more aware of our environment, we find out that things happen because of 2 primary elements: luck and decisive actions.
A smart man once said that where you are in your life is 99% effort and 1% luck. Or was it the other way around.
I have often been taught to control what you can control. To learn to act and make the most out of your own means.
This has been an invaluable leason that i take in life as i grow older and wiser.
To finally accept that not everything is within my control. But for the littlest fraction that i would have control over, i would exploit and carefully plan to yield the most.
This is in the hopes that the ratio between luck and effort be changed to more of effort than of luck.
It has caused me a lot of anxienty, even as a kid to know that i am not in control of my destiny.
This has been what many great people have done which made them great. Lives of Ferdinand Marcos, Steve Jobs, adolf hitler, Winston Churchill.
It is when life gives them a curb ball. They respond back using these curb ball to propel them past where they are.
success is not merely brought by determination or perseverance. I have seen so many people who have sweated themselves to death but have never came close to their goal. I think thats a bone a lot of successful people throw at us to keep us hoping.
The reality is, it is intent and purposive actions.
Intent is knowing what your goal is and understanding what is needed to get from here to there. It does not mean that you can predict what unexpected things that would come your way. No. No one can do that. Its simply, having a clear mind on what you want, being able to fully visualize what you are to achieve and knowing the path of how to get there.
Purposive actions. Every action leads to a successive reaction.
That is the law of physics which no one can negotiate against.
Every movement and action creates a rippling effect to your surroundings.
No action would be spared from that.
Its just a matter of how much and how big it will be.
Some call this carma.
If you embrace this principle, then you and i will be more thoughtful on our actions.
The posibility of getting where you want to be is a series of decisive and intentful actions.
It is seldom due to chance.

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Where does my taxes go

January 26, 2015 Leave a comment

Just came from my daughter’s monthly check up. Had to ride a jeepney to avoid having to line up for parking, which usually becomes more of a hassle than taking a public transport.
Everytime I take public transport, my social filters are taken out. Gives you an honest look of the community you live in.
32% of my salary automatically is taken out for taxes. Thats a big chunk. I always see that a third of what i should be earning is kept from me. So given that i get paid twice a month, there should have been a third payment which never happens because the goverment takes it.
And then put to consideration that another 12% is charged everytime you spend for VAT, another form of tax.
So all in all, you almost submit 50% of your total pay to the government.
If you look at that perspective, it tends to arouse your sense of entitlement to what you feel you should be getting. I am paying as much as any other person in any country is paying.
So where do my taxes go?
The philippine government would publicize that our national budget is hugely allocated to pro-poor programs. That raises alot of eyebrows, but thats another topic.
So assuming that our officials are honest and that the money in deed goes to the poor and marginalized.
Is it the right way to spend my money?
You take it from me and give it to the others?
If you envision the poor as someone underprevilaged but struggling to work hard to alleviate themselves from their current condition and just needed an extra push to succeed, thats definitely worthy of my share of hard earned money.
But is that really the case?
Or is it that, most that are poor are poor because of the choices they make?
In reality, you’d often find the marginalized poor with this picture.
A family composed of 6 to 9 kids a year apart. Both the mom and dad does not have any stable jobs. And spends their day either watching television. Chatting through senseless rumors with their neighbour. Or having a bottle of 20 peso bottle of liquior with friends in one of the street corners.
They would often complain on having no jobs available. But if you dig deeper, you’d realize that they have the most descriminate preference on what jobs they would want to work for.
Its not that there is no jobs out there.
Its really a case of “I can’t find the job I prefer to do”. The kind of job, which would allow me to be out if I don’t want to come in to work. That does not require me to move all day. And still allow me to chat with my friends tge whole day. But pays a whole lot of money.
On second thought, most would even consider a chore to look for these jobs. A chore they would put aside on rare occassions they would not be on their social gatherings with their friends.
Given these conditions, their chances of getting employed is really next to none.
And why should they exert effort in getting a job?
Many of our poor finds solice on the aid that the government gives them. The monthly allowances provided to them. The low quality education and medical benefits given to them.
Of course, with no contribution at all, they could not demand any better.
If you think about it, this is not at all help. But rather a way to reward for being lazy. Hence keeping them down on their condition.
Of course our politicians benefit from that. They seem like santa claus and atm machines, handing out money and temporary aid to them. Money and temporary aid, finance by my money.
This status propels our politician to office and keeps then there.
So where does my taxes go?
My question has an underlying tone of, don’t i deserve a better quality of life given that half of what I earn goes to this communal fund called taxes.
Don’t i deserve a better service. A nice place to live and a higher quality of ammenities.
Why is it that those who are lazy are the one’s getting priority to the money I gave out.
In my eyes, if you did not contribute then you dont deserve anything.
To make this country better, everyone has to do his part.
There is no tolerance for laziness.
If it means that we have to force people to work, then we have to.

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A leaf in the book of life

August 5, 2014 Leave a comment

4 years. Longest i have been in one company. Proud to say that i have matured and have out grown those childish behaviors. Those ego centric, emotional reactions to every slightest thing that doesn’t go my way.
I wish i would have grown a lot faster and have reached this level of maturity a lot faster.
I could have done more.
Nevertheless, here am I.
With no intent to cut my tenure in this organization, Im faced with a new chapter in my life. I didn’t change jobs but have changed everything about my job.
We have just recently been aquired by another company. This change brings about a new assignment, a new boss, a new team, and a new set of colleagues.
So how will embrace this unwelcomed and unplanned change.
In most instances, when I join a new company, these situations often brings about great excitement and joy.
I’m hoping to feel the same way.. yet it havent kicked in yet… any moment now.. just a couple more seconds…
Arrrgg..
What now? I guess it will happen sooner or later.
So how do you face this change?
With open arms, raised asking for wisdom

A leaf in the book of life

August 5, 2014 Leave a comment

4 years. Longest i have been in one company. Proud to say that i have matured and have out grown those childish behaviors. Those ego centric, emotional reactions to every slightest thing that doesn’t go my way.
I wish i would have grown a lot faster and have reached this level of maturity a lot faster.
I could have done more.
Nevertheless, here am I.
With no intent to cut my tenure in this organization, Im faced with a new chapter in my life. I didn’t change jobs but have changed everything about my job.
We have just recently been aquired by another company. This change brings about a new assignment, a new boss, a new team, and a new set of colleagues.
So how will embrace this unwelcomed and unplanned change.
In most instances, when I join a new company, these situations often brings about great excitement and joy.
I’m hoping to feel the same way.. yet it havent kicked in yet… any moment now.. just a couple more seconds…
Arrrgg..
What now? I guess it will happen sooner or later.
So how do you face this change?
With open arms, raised asking for wisdom

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The most important comodity

May 1, 2014 Leave a comment

As we go through life, we are faced with so much distractions. New phone, a house, a new car, that amazing dress, this delicious dinner, that must go trip… and the list goes on. We fill ourselves with so much clutter.
We realize that these clutters are not what truly brings us happiness, and We know this because at the time we get them, there is still a feeling of incompleteness. A burning void that these things does not fill.
A cliche as it may seem but it seems that happiness comes from intangible and priceless things.
I found inert true joy 8 months ago at 5:30am while having breakfast in starbucks. That was right after i first saw my 1st born in the delivery room. I would trade that moment of true happiness while i was reading the news paper, sipping my coffee and taking a bite in my sandwich.

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I continue to find happiness, with thoughts of the time i spend with this new family of mine, and each little thing our little one does.
Another true moment of happiness was 2 years ago in our palawan trip, where I had an opportunity to spend a week with my mom, sister and brother. This was the 1st in 13 years that we had time to be together as we have always been miles apart. I specifically remember singing random songs with my sister while riding the pump boat while my brother was running his hand in the water and my mom was enjoying the wind.

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There were several more, seeing my wifes reaction when i popped the question in a cable car in hongkong 50ft from the ground, the time i saw my aunties and uncles coming together during my wedding, i can’t remember how long it was when we last had the opportunity to be together. Everyone was just happy. the time i was able to travel by myself to vigan, be alone and spend a lot of quality time for myself.. and many more…

I would not claim to be a happiness expert. But i can say from these that happiness is brought about by the simplest things. Things that happen to all of us. Moments that are not exclusive to be experienced by a few.

Unfortunately, these moments are easy to miss out. And thats just sad. Because moments such as these only comes once. It will hit you one day and make you realize how much you have missed because you did not pay attention.

I think its just a matter of being able to unclutter and remove yourself from all the unnecessary. knowing how to slow down and being able to live in the moment.

So what is the most important comodity? In my opinion, time is the most important comodity. Knowing and chosing were to spend your time and put your attention is key.

Seems simple. But easy for us to go wrong and waste it.

I have met so many people living in misery.. regretting the years they spent missing out on the right moments.

The good news is, no matter how old you are. Time is still at your disposal. You cannot reclaim the years, but you can definitely choose to spend the upcoming ones better and truely experience happiness

How to be the best

April 23, 2014 Leave a comment

With me going past 3 years in my company with the same role, it males you wonder if there is something else instore for me? I guess i’m going through my 3rd year itch.
Maybe its my boss, or maybe its the way my role has been set up, or maybe its because of some politiking happening on top, or maube i’m not being given enough credit to what i’m doing?
more often than not, these questions points outwards, trying to find reason to your misery.
on times like these, i have often been reminded of great leaders such as nelson mandela, mahatma gandi, locals such as ninoy aquino, ferdinand marcos and others… these great men did not have an easy life. In fact, what made them great was the fact that they were push to the corner and yet they were able to create phenomenal feats.
Regardless of what questions I would have stated above turned out as yes, they are in no where comparable to what these men have had.
To be the best, to be great, the secret has always been.. despite these challenges, what have you done?

my new girl

March 11, 2014 Leave a comment

i’m telling you a secret. when i think about my new girl, it brings a smile to my face.
let me tell you why. i love the thought that she tries stay awake at night just to catch me even for a few minutes before going to sleep. and if get in and she’d be a sleep, she would instantly wake up the moment she hears or get the sense that i am in.

we would then end up dancing for several minutes before she goes back to sleep.

in the morning, When she wakes up and i am still a sleep, i would feel her cuddling up to me.
she tries to grab attention everytime she can possibly can. and i can’t describe how cute she does it.
i am her world and she is mine.
my wife knows this and sees it every single time.
i can’t help falling in love with my baby little girl-Natalie

Natalie and I